Pornography
In America
by
Catryce
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Webster's
Definition
pornography
From
the Greek word pornë, prostitute; the word
literally means the depiction of prostitutes,
at first applied to classical drawings, such
as the paintings at Pompeii.
por-nog'raphy
(pôr-nog're-fë) n. obscene art, writings,
etc.
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The
growing numbers of individuals who view pornographic materials
in our nation are staggering. In the past three years alone
the number has escalated at an alarming rate due to the
popularity of online Internet access. Now that men (and
women) can view porn from the privacy of their home computers
without worrying about being seen in public, or having anyone
find their "secret stash" of magazines or movies,
the number of pornography users is on the rise. (View
Statistics)
Why
is pornography such a powerful and prosperous media in the
United States?
Why
has pornography become a multi-million dollar industry in
the U.S.? Compared to other countries, the United States
is far more saturated with pornographic material and is
more widely accepting of its sales and distribution. It
appears that this is mainly due to American society as a
whole.
Americans are being desensitized more and more each passing
year -- through television, magazines, and the media in
general. What shocks citizens at first slowly starts to
lose its impact and a new level of "shock media"
must be sought out to grab the attention of listeners, viewers,
or readers. This gradual desensitizing has a tremendous
psychological impact on how we interact with each other
in relationships, how parents raise their children, and
what people are willing to accept as the "norm".
In
the United States it seems that those who have the most
money or financial influence control the media and the law-makers.
The mafia, which has control of some aspects of the media
and has also influenced the decisions of certain Congressmen,
has ties to pornography as well as prostitution. Pornography
rakes in more revenue each year as the general population
becomes more accepting of it's use and further programmed
by the media. People are loosing their sense of self and
are becoming zombies plugged into the great machine of consumerism.
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Psychological
Stance
According
to psychological catorgorization, pornography
and prostitution are listing in the same category
as structural sexual variances.
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Why
Do Men View Pornography?
Men
in America have been raised to believe that it is unmasculine
to show their emotions and therefore they must be repressed.
Many are also taught that girls and women are to be despised
as inferior and that they, as males, must reject characteristics,
interests, attitudes, etc., that are associated with femininity.
Since
these men are unable to fully disclose themselves emotionally
in their relationships with women, they often get involved
with activities that support their emotional separation.
These are activites such as viewing pornographic materials,
frequenting strip clubs, and even belonging to religious
sects which portray women as evil, tempestuous, or having
less worth than a man.
Pornography
allows men to retain their view of women as objects rather
than equals. It does not require a man to be emotional,
loving, respectful, or deeply intimate. It also creates
an unrealistic view of women that furthers the separation
between men and the "real" women they interact
with in their daily lives. Men who view airbrushed or digitally
enhanced photographs of unattainable women tend to view
the average female as being less attractive and, therefore,
less stimulating.
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time progresses, these men become bored with "straight"
porn and start seeking out movies and magazines
with more and more disturbing images... |
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In
studies done with men who view pornography or frequent strip
clubs, it has been shown
that sexual intimacy between these men and their wives or
girlfriends decreases with time. It has also been shown
that men tend to become addicted to pornographic images
and seek out more and more. As time progresses, these men
become bored with"straight" porn and start seeking
out movies and magazines with more disturbing images --
images that they, themselves, may have been repulsed by
at one time.
Eventually, after they've viewed thousands of images ranging
from "straight porn" to images involving group
sex or beastiality, they need something more to produce
sexual stimulus. The familiar material becomes unexciting
as a result of habituation. This is when they consider acting
out -- creating situations in real life to produce sexual
arousal.
When
Fantasy Isn't Enough
Men who
have become bored with pornographic images will begin planning
how they can act out some of the images they viewed previously
to generate sexual arousal. These acts will vary depending
upon which images the man found most arousing at the onset
of their exposure to pornographic materials. Some might
begin attending swingers partys and participating in group
sex. Others might stimulate themselves in public areas where
they might be seen by a by-passer. Others may resort to
bondage, sado-masichism, or even rape and torture.
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estimated 90% of rapes are never reported by women
-- out of fear, humiliation, and even guilt. |
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Exactly
one-third of the rapists who reported being incited by pornography
to commit an offense said that they deliberately used pornography
in their preparation for committing the rape. The comparable
figure for child molesters was much higher--53% versus 33%
(Einsiedel, 1986) An estimated 90% of rapes are never reported
by women -- out of fear, humiliation, and even guilt. As
the availability of pornographic materials rises in the
U.S., the number of rapes also increases. Is this merely
a coincidence as many researches and pro-porn enthusiest
would have you believe?
Myth:
All Men View Pornography
Some
men, and women, use the argument "all men view pornography"
or "it's only natural" to dismiss those who speak
against it. However, not all men view pornographic materials
(or anything else that depicts women as objects). Saying
that "all men view pornography" or related materials
would be like saying, "ALL women want to have children,"
or, "ALL women love to cook." We know this is
not true, therefore -- not ALL men enjoy pornography or
view women as sex objects. It's only logical. In
fact, there are many men who are against sexism in all it's
forms -- type in "men against pornography" or
"men against sexism" in any search engine and
you will find that there are groups and organizations out
there!
But
It's The Women Who Take Off Their Clothes
No one can argue with the fact
that straight heterosexual pornography is focused on female
nudity and sex acts performed by women. It is also greatly
comprised of submissive females or females who's only mission
seems to be the gratification of man. A popular theme in
pornography is the rape and domination of an innocent female
-- thus taking the male role to a new level of control.
Why, then, would women willingly get involved in the porn
industry?
The
reasons women get caught up in the porn scene vary. Some
believe that it is they who are in control of the men --
and that if a man is crazy enough (or stupid enough) to
pay money for her to take off her clothing, then she will
comply without a second thought. Others have been abused,
by parents, by men in relationships, and have had their
self-worth torn away. They've been told they are useless,
unlovable, or bad. Many women in the porn industry have
deep psychological issues which they have covered up with
sex, drugs, and/or alcohol.
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make 25% less than men who hold the same positions
and have received the same amount of education. |
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However,
it seems that a large number of women who become involved
in the adult entertainment industry do so because they can't
make enough money to support their lifestyles in the average
workplace. Some of these women have children to support
and have tried juggling two or more jobs just to make enough
money to get by. The lure of making enough money to support
themselves without working themselves to exhaustion in low-paying
positions is too great for many to pass up.
Women
make 25% less than men who hold the same positions and have
received the same amount of education. Women hold fewer
than 10% of the nation's elective offices and only 2% of
the top management positions in American corporations. Aproximately
33% of women who work outside the home are employed in low-paying
positions such as those of secretaries, clerks, housekeepers,
receptionists, typists, childcare workers, hair dressers,
or cashiers.
Women
who allow their sex to be used as entertainment are greatly
damaging all women who strive for equality in the workplace.
When men view women in pornography, they don't view them
as fellow human beings worthy of respect -- they view them
as objects to be used for their own, selfish gratification.
While the majority of companies are run by men, how is a
women to be taken seriously when she is thought of as an
object instead of a capable individual? When it's time to
promote an employee to a higher, better paying position,
is a male manager going to choose another man who he views
as an equal, or a female who he has been programmed to view
as an object?
The
Alternative
There
are a number of groups and organizations to help men overcome
sexism and pornographic adictions. There is also a wonderful
book, The
Centerfold Syndrome: How Men Can Overcome Objectification
and Achieve Intimacy with Women by Gary R. Brooks,
Ph. D., which tackles men's problems with intimacy due to
pornography.
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who have completely removed all forms of pornography
and sexist material from their lives have developed...more
fulfilling relationships, greater intimacy, and
more enjoyable love-making with their significant
others. |
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Men
who have completely removed all forms of pornography and sexist
material from their lives have developed a new appreciation
and respect for women. Some have even said that they view
women in an entirely new way. They interact with more women
and have developed friendships they never would have considered
before. They've also reported more fulfilling relationships,
greater intimacy, and more enjoyable love-making with their
significant others.
The
Bottom Line
I
believe that all individuals want to be in a relationship
in which they meet the expectations of their significant other,
in which they are not compared or made to feel less than,
and in which they are the sole focus of their loved one's
sexual expression. Everyone wants to be loved for who they
are -- at their deepest level -- and not because of how they
look, how much money they have, what kind of car they drive,
how many possesions they've accumulated, etc.
Under
what circumstances in a relationship would it be healthy or
wise for one to focus their sexuality outside of the relationship?
The focus should be on each other! Why would we need to focus
on a magazine or movie while we have a REAL person to share
with and experience? So often people are distracted by society
that they forget what they already have in their lives. The
media is constantly telling us that we need more or better
than what we have in order to be happy. Instead of listening
to those messages, we need to learn to be happy with what
we have and, if we cannot, then we need to figure out why
this is so.
We
are people, we are human, and we must learn to love. Love
-- true love -- is not of this earth. It is not sexual but
may take on sexual expression. Love is warmth, respect, and
adoration -- not lust, fantasies, and lies. We are to be "in
the world" but not "of it." We are to rise
above the flesh and connect with source. In doing this, the
love we express is of a higher level -- not based on the physical.
This body is merely a vehical -- it is not who we are.
Important Links
To
find out more about pornography in America, the negative effects
of pornography, how to break the pornography adiction, or
to view sites by men who are against pornography and sexism,
please check out these important links:
Porn
Myths - Thanks to our friends in the media industries,
and most Americans inability to think critically about
the media, many wacky Porn Myths have entered our cultural
consciousness and been swallowed by impressionable young people,
to whom they are passed down as Truth.
National
Campaign to Stop Pornography - The
NCSP is a non-profit organization committed to sacking Pornography.
Through this web site you will be able to access important
information and tools to help make tomorrow a safer place
for our children. This site is dedicated to those who want
to demolish the world of pornography. It is dedicated to those
who want to stop doing business with companies who promote
and profit from pornography and finally, to those who are
not afraid and un-willing to compromise the safety of our
family.
Morality
In The Media - A national, not-for-profit, interfaith
organization established in 1962 to combat obscenity and uphold
decency standards in the media.
Fires
Of Darkness - Reaching out to pornography
addicts and the people who love them.
Enough
Is Enough - Read the evidence, and decide for yourself
- is pornography "just harmless fun?"
Coalition
Against Trafficking in Women
- A non-governmental organization that promotes women's human
rights. It works internationally to combat sexual exploitation
in all its forms.
OpenMind.Org
- To help those in or seeking recovery from various addictions,
obsessions & compulsions such as drugs, alcohol, sex &
food, as well as family, friends, anxiety sufferers &
abuse survivors, to find information, support & resources.
PORNOGRAPHY:
What's the Big Deal? - Taken from
An Affair of the Mind by Laurie Hall.
Virtual
Unfaithfulness - Pornography use in a marriage.
QUITTING
PORNOGRAPHY - Men Speak Out About
How They Did It--And Why
Men
Against Pornography - By Leonardo Calcagno
The
Pittsburgh Coalition Against Pornography
Group
Against Pornography
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